updates
2025-03-13 site is up!
This page is a work in progress. Currently,it's an aggregate of every resource I was able to collect from a few masterposts and other resources by local educators. As of 4/27/26, these have not been individually screened for completeness, accuracy, and otherwise respectful language choice. Likely, I'll get to this next week. Same deal with filtering down and removing resources that don't 100% reflect TK's values.
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CW for gendered/sexed language that may not match your experience of your own anatomy. My next big project for the site is to filter these resources down to get more specific about cws- but that hasn't happened yet.
You can help! If you notice a resource here that you think might not align well for any reason, use our contact and let me know! If I can crowd-source that labor, even a little, the whole job will be done much faster....
SO
CW for gendered/sexed language that may not match your experience of your own anatomy. My next big project for the site is to filter these resources down to get more specific about cws- but that hasn't happened yet.
You can help! If you notice a resource here that you think might not align well for any reason, use our contact and let me know! If I can crowd-source that labor, even a little, the whole job will be done much faster....
Rope PDFs
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Rope websites
Rope videos
Chastity and genital play
General BDSM & D/s
Negotiation & Consent
Fetlife — Pre-scene negotiations
Fetlife — Negotiation and Consent Myths Part I
Fetlife — Negotiation and Consent Myths Part II
Fetlife — Politely backing out of negotiations
Planned Parenthood — Sexual Consent
Fetlife — A Primer on Consent
Fetlife — How to discuss limits
Fetlife — Is it okay to say no?
Fetlife — Do you need limits and safewords?
Fetlife — How do I know when to use a safe word?
Fetlife — Using “No” or “Stop” as a safe word
Fetlife — Non-verbal safewords
Fetlife — There is no shame in Red
Fetlife — Consent violation vs communication fail
Fetlife — Consent Violations: Accidents vs Choices
Personal Safety & Vetting
Fetlife — A Somewhat Map of Landmines For Newbies
Fetlife — When you're new, predators will try to prey upon you
Fetlife — Naive Sub Syndrome
Fetlife — How to be safe in online & in-person encounters
Fetlife — The dangers of grooming tactics
Dominant vs Domineering — Relationship Red Flag List
Fetlife — Newbies: Avoid “Community Frenzy”, Protect Yourselves
Impact Play
Electro Play
Needle Play
Wax Play
Sex Toys & Where to Buy
Urethral Sounding
Sexual Health & STIs
Fetlife — BDSM and Your Sexual Health
Fetlife — STDs in Sex-Positive Community: Examining Stigma and Safer Sex Practices
Fetlife — STI Testing Recommendations for Sex Positive Communities
CDC — Genital HPV Infection Fact Sheet
Planned Parenthood — Urinary Tract Infections
Planned Parenthood — Birth Control
First Aid
D/s Dynamics & Power Exchange
Mental Health & Wellbeing
Gender Identity & Sexuality